Femininity and
Masculinity
Child Health
See: Bonding (attachment) Fathering Feminism
[vid] Russell Means Final Interview - The Sacred Feminine and Gender Roles
[2011] The Dying Art of
Femininity By Henry Makow, Ph.D. Masculinity
does not simply apply to certain traits like physical strength, agility,
aggression, prowess, dominance, logic, abstract reasoning or aptitudes for
certain kinds of work. Real masculine men are loving of women. They show real
consideration and appreciation for the whole person that they are with, and that
includes the traits that might at times veer into typically masculine territory.
They are not threatened if their wife shows a greater aptitude for math or
science. They are happy when she suggests solutions to problems that they might
not have considered, or when she is better at certain sports than they are.
Since they truly cherish their
woman as a part of themselves, everything that she accomplishes, whether
typically masculine or feminine, brings them pleasure, as it reflects well on
both of them. Yet, the masculine man remains aware that women do have certain
physical limitations relative to themselves. And they are considerate of that.
They don't expect their wives to carry or move heavy things, perform physical
tasks while they rest, fetch and carry things for them, have sole responsibility
for the routine tasks of child care, or wait on them like their wives are their
servants. This would not be loving your wife as you love yourself. This would be
putting yourself above your wife.
If you are going to talk about the
feminine ideal, it is only fair to mention that the concept of masculinity is
frequently offered as an excuse for brutishness, and implies no responsibilities
toward women. These discussions need to include suggestions for the improvement
of the behavior of people in general, not just women.
Books
Fascinating Womanhood by Helen
Andelin's (1963)
Unveil the Mysteries of The Female by Theun Mares
Quotes
This leads us to another important concept, which is that the
female needs to stand back if she is going to support the male's purpose.
Standing back does not mean that the female is denied her individuality, or her
independence, but it does mean that if she is going to support the male's
purpose, she must take his purpose as her own. For example, although a wife is
perfectly entitled to have a career of her own, she must nonetheless regard her
husband's career as being more important than her own. If she does not do this,
her own career will become more important than that of her husband, and
eventually more important than even her husband, in which case she will be
pursuing her own purpose, rather than supporting her husband's purpose. We see
this all too often when, once a married couple has started a family, the female
becomes so engrossed in being the mother of their children, that she not only
forgets she has a husband whose purpose she once supported, but now even starts
to mother him into how a father should behave!
I cannot stress enough how very
important it is that the female learns to step back for the male. Although it
may appear as if the female is making herself less than the male by stepping
back for him, she is in effect doing nothing of the sort. In fact, the reverse
is true. By making his purpose supreme, and by putting his vision first, the
female is making it clear to the male that she believes in him, and trusts that
he is not going to abuse her, or disappoint her in some way. By believing in the
male in this way, the female in effect manipulates him, firstly, into claiming
his power as a male; and secondly, into bringing forth the true female in her,
rather than the mother.
It is only through the female
refusing to mother the male, and by standing back, that the male can and does
claim his power. Having claimed his power, he will automatically elevate the
female to the status of his equal, by ceasing to rebel against her as if she
were his mother. But, even more important than this, is that once the male sees
the female as his partner, and not as his mother, he unconsciously begins to do
everything in his power not to disappoint her in her vision of him. We can look
upon this as seeking approval if we wish, yet it is not really seeking approval,
but the very essence of intelligent co-operation. To grasp this, think of it in
this way: "If you are willing to acknowledge me as a male, I will do my level
best to prove to you I am worthy of that trust. But if you wish to mother me, I
will fight you every step of the way by digging in my heels and rebelling. In
this way I can at the very least prove to you, and myself, that I am not weak,
and do not need your constant nagging!"
Unveil the Mysteries of The Female by Theun Mares